15 People Share What Instantly Turned Them Off a Crush
Attraction can disappear for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with someone’s appearance. A person can look incredible, seem charming, and have everything going for them, only to say or do one tiny thing that suddenly changes the entire impression. Sometimes it is a major personality flaw, but other times it is something ridiculously small, like littering, refusing to admit a mistake, or being rude to a stranger. A recent Reddit discussion asked people what instantly made them less attracted to someone they initially found very attractive, and the answers revealed just how quickly one little moment can completely change the way someone sees a potential crush.
Throwing Trash on the Subway Floor
One person saw an attractive man in a white suit on the NYC subway and immediately lost interest when he casually threw a wrapper under the seat.
Saying “I’m Always Right”
One commenter remembered an ex casually announcing that they were never wrong, which was apparently enough to end the relationship by the time they reached their destination.
Refusing to Admit a Simple Mistake
Someone described dating a person who insisted a singer had the same name as them, even after being shown evidence that they were wrong, because admitting the mistake apparently was not an option.
Changing the Argument When They Were Losing
One person said their mother-in-law would suddenly switch from arguing about one subject to another whenever she realized she could not win the original argument.
Treating Cleaners Like They Exist to Pick Up After You
A commenter said an ex once justified littering by saying that people get paid to clean it up, instantly changing how they viewed the person.
Being Unable to See Another Person’s Point of View
Several comments focused on a lack of empathy, with people describing how difficult it becomes to feel attracted to someone who cannot imagine how their behavior affects other people.
Acting Like Being Wrong Is a Personal Attack
One of the strongest recurring themes was not simply making mistakes, but becoming defensive and refusing to acknowledge them once someone points them out.
Being Rude When Nobody Is Trying to Impress You
The discussion repeatedly came back to everyday behavior toward strangers, suggesting that someone’s treatment of other people can completely change how attractive they seem.
Bragging About Bad Behavior
One commenter described becoming increasingly turned off after discovering that an attractive person regularly bragged about cheating and taking advantage of their partner.
Smoking Cigarettes
For some people, discovering that an attractive person smoked was enough to completely erase the initial attraction.
Bad Breath
One particularly blunt answer was simply bad breath, with the commenter saying that poor oral hygiene can destroy attraction almost immediately.
Ridiculously Long Fingernails
One person singled out extremely long fingernails or toenails as an unexpectedly powerful attraction killer.
Spitting in Public
For another commenter, simply seeing someone spit was enough to move them firmly out of the attraction zone.
Talking Behind Friends’ Backs
Finding out that someone regularly tears down their own friends when they are not around was another behavior people described as an immediate warning sign.
Being Boring on Purpose
One commenter said that acting permanently unimpressed or indifferent toward everything can make someone dramatically less attractive, even if the initial physical attraction was strong.