Geeks Vs Loneliness: telling someone you’re feeling lonely

If you're feeling lonely and a bit stuck, what can you do? Here's an idea or two...

This article comes from Den of Geek UK.

Welcome to Geeks Vs Loneliness, our little section of the site where we try and talk about things that may be affecting you, or the people around you. We’ve got around 80 different pieces in this series so far, and hopefully, there’s something in there that may be of use to you.

This week, we want to talk about something really quite simple. But as with many simple things, it’s something really rather important: letting people know that you’re feeling lonely in the first place.

Many of us feel isolation from time to time, and many of us feel lonely. Often, though, it can feel like nobody else can relate to, or is going through, what you’re going through. Loneliness can play real tricks on you like that. Of course, nobody is going through the exact same set of circumstances as you, and nobody can entirely relate to what’s going on in your head. But millions upon millions of people feel loneliness every single day. And it can be very hard to admit it if that’s what you’re feeling yourself.

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We’d strongly suggest that there’s no stigma to loneliness, though. There’s certainly no need to be embarrassed, and in a world that seems to demand we all rush to work, we all have to be doing something, we all have to cram into transport for a couple of hours a day, it’s hard to find the time to do too much beyond that.

Yet as we never tire of saying in this series: you matter. You really do.

A few simple tips, then, if you’re feeling lonely. The first is the obvious one, and that’s to let someone know. Be it a friend or a family member. Or, if that feels like a big step, how about just posting a comment below? There are no automated comments at Den Of Geek, and if someone says hello back to you, that’s another human being who has chosen to do that. As anonymous as the internet appears, it’s easy to lose sight of that.

Another thought: there are people around you who are likely feeling lonely too, but may feel a bit stuck, or be uncomfortable discussing it too. How about just throwing out an extra hello or two throughout the day? You may not see the impact that has on someone, but you never know: you might just have made their day.

Longer term, how about volunteering, maybe getting involved in a local charity? Or doing something that gets you involved with other people you may not otherwise get to natter to? It may break a cycle, particularly if you’ve been feeling lonely for a while.

Most of all, though, please do talk to someone. Please tell someone how you’re feeling. Just because somebody hasn’t noticed how lonely you may be feeling, it doesn’t equate that they don’t care. A good chat and a cup of half-decent coffee can work wonders sometimes.

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You all take care, and thanks, as always, for reading.